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Fixed or Growth Mindset which one are you?

Mindset is an extremely powerful thing that manifests itself from a young age, and not only does it affect our entire relationship with success and failure, but also our capacity for happiness.

If we want to change our mindset,  you need to understand the two basic types and how simple changes in internal dialogue can create a powerful positive mindset.

A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are traits which we can’t change in any meaningful way, and that success is the confirmation of those traits, which are more than not measured internally by an equally fixed standard.   Always striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs becomes a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled.

A “growth mindset,” on the other hand, thrives on challenge and sees failure not as a reflection of unintelligence, lack of creativity etc –  but as a positive step for growth and for challenging our existing abilities.

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The Fixed or Growth mindset can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you commit to and achieve the things that are most important to you.  It is amazing how a simple belief can have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life.  

Believing that your qualities are carved in stone unfortunately creates an ongoing need to prove yourself over and over.

I’ve seen so many people with a fixed mindset,  with this one consuming goal of proving themselves.  Every situation becomes a constant need for confirmation. Every situation is evaluated: Will I succeed or fail? Will I look smart or dumb? Will I be accepted or rejected? Will I feel like a winner or a loser?

On the flip side is the Growth mindset where your traits are not simply a hand you’re dealt and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others of how good you are when you are secretly terrified that you’re not. In this mindset, the hand you’re dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can develop and grow through your hard work and effort. A belief that everyone can change and grow through practice and experience.

A growth mindset believes that a person’s true potential is unknown, that it’s impossible to predict what can be accomplished with years of motivation, dedication, and training.  The belief that qualities can be developed then creates a passion for learning, improving, and growing.

So ask yourself these questions –  Why waste time trying to prove over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?

Why try and hide weaknesses instead of overcoming them?

Why look for friends or partners who will only serve to boost your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow?

And why stay in your comfort zone, instead of embracing experiences that will stretch you?

The passion for growing and challenging yourself and sticking to it, even when it’s not going well, is the epitomy of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.

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